Acquainted with grief
Recently a friend of ours said an unexpected goodbye to her husband as he went to be with the Lord. She is a strong believer and is in no doubt that the love of her life is walking on streets of gold, receiving much reward for pouring out his life for the King and His Kingdom. Knowing this, our dear friend is grieving deeply the loss of her soul mate. A few weeks ago I had breakfast with another friend who is still grieving the loss of her baby girl who lived only a few weeks. Years ago my husband and I went through a similar experience so we have some understanding of the deep sense of loss, and at times feeling like you will never recover.
The Bible tells us that we do not grieve as the world does because we understand our lives here are temporary, but the truth is we do grieve. Even with an eternal perspective, we still experience times of deep sorrow and heartache because we are wired to love deeply. Grieving someone just proves our love for them. It’s fascinating that Jesus wept over Lazarus’s death even though He knew He would raise him from the dead. I believe Jesus was also moved with compassion on seeing Mary so upset. She didn’t know what Jesus knew and was grieving the loss of her friend. ( John 11:33-36)
The verse that grabbed my attention this week and initiated writing this blog is found in Matthew 26 where we find Jesus in the garden of Gethsemane:
“And taking with Him Peter and the two sons of Zebedee, He began to show grief and distress of mind and was deeply depressed. Then He said to them, My soul is very sad and deeply grieved, so that I am almost dying of sorrow. Stay here and keep awake and keep watch with Me.”Matthew 26:37-38 AMPC
Most of us will taste what it feels like to deeply grieve and feel very sad as we say a final goodbye to a loved one, suffer the end a relationship or even lose a beloved pet. These are real emotions because we loved much. Some ‘wise’ soul might tell you to ‘just get over it.’ I don’t believe this is our Fathers expectation because we are meant to remember and treasure the good memories.
I remember when we suffered the loss of our triplets (a story for another time), feeling like I could hardly breathe and wondering if I would ever recover. I want to encourage you today, that there is recovery and joy after loss. No you are not meant to ‘just get over’ someone you have loved deeply but Jesus has made a way to walk in healing as we hold tightly to precious memories. There is life after loss that will include tender moments of tears as we remember and honor those no longer with us. Sometimes a situation will trigger a memory even years later, and we will experience a wave of grief as we are reminded of moments shared.
Our beautiful Savior is well acquainted with grief and the One who comforts us when we mourn. He is also the One who heals our broken hearts, strengthens us again and gives us a hope and a future.
If you are walking through a time of loss, my prayer for you is that you will know the love of the Father holding you tightly and comforting you as only He can. May you treasure every good memory as you walk towards the healing and hope that is yours in Christ.
“He was despised and rejected and forsaken by men, a Man of sorrows and pains, and acquainted with grief and sickness....Isaiah 53:3 AMPC
“But [in fact] He has borne our griefs, And He has carried our sorrows and pains....ISAIAH 53:4 AMP
“Blessed are those who mourn, for they will be comforted.”Matthew 5:4 NIV
“For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.”Jeremiah 29:11 NIV